I caught my breathe walking into the living room. It was the kind of romantic setup that would make any woman swoon…
He had laid a fur blanket on the floor with pillows. Candles were lit all around. Chocolate appetizers, and wine sat on the glass table. Music was softly playing in the background. It was perfection.
But I want to be honest with you.
Especially to the woman reading this feeling that longing sensation in your gut.
I asked for this. I asked him on the date. I told him about my high expectations, and I even sent him pictures for inspiration. He didn’t come up with it all on his own.
I communicated and learned that my husband actually had some how gotten the impression that I didn’t even like to have flowers bought for me!
Whoa! It’s true that I’m not the kind of woman who Expects flowers, but I am extremely grateful when they come. Men reading this, know that every woman wants to be loved well. It may not be flowers, but what it really comes down to is being thought of. It’s being shown effort to love us.
And ladies, same goes with how your treat your man.
Ladies, too many times we secretly hope our men will randomly wake up one day and love us the way we want to be loved…
We hold resentment when our needs aren’t being met, but the thing is we don’t tell them our needs. Or we try once or twice and give up.
Even with the simplest of things like telling him to ask how your day was or kissing you when he gets home. These are super simple expectations that drive us insane.
But he really doesn’t know it’s a big deal to you! It’s your responsibility to tell him, you have to explain it to him!
And it’s okay to ask in love. (Ask, don’t demand.)
It’s okay standards in a relationship, but everyone standards are unique. So if he’s not doing this kind of thing for you, it doesn’t mean he’s not loving you or think of you, he may be doing it in other ways where you have validated that he’s doing the right thing.
Tell him what you want and what you need! Men like gentle guidance, Especially when it comes to you. Don’t be scared to help the guy out because he’s going to feel like a knight in shining armor if you just tell him which dragons need to be slayed for you.
It took me too many years to find my voice to be able to communicate my needs and desires to my husband respectfully.
It can be scary and vulnerable. And can we please talk about the fear of rejection or not being listened to! It’s a thing and those fears are valid. I’m also here to tell you that you can overcome these fears and insecurities. And when you do, it reignites the passion in your relationship!
Confidence is sexy.
And confidence not being layered with that underlying fear of rejection is even sexier. If you are a woman looking to find your voice so that you can be the best version of you and speak your desires for your relationship check out High Achievers with Hannah.
You will speak your truth all while being magnetic.
