But when you understand your pain isn’t there to make you miserable, your horizons open up to new possibilities.
Pain is present because your mind, body, or soul is trying to communicate with you. It’s there to protect you.
In our culture, we are taught to avoid and stop pain at all costs.
At times, this can be helpful. But far too often this mindset looses site of the bigger picture and causes us to put band-aids on gaping wounds. It casts the belief that pain is always your enemy, an entity that needs to be destroyed without observation.
When you see pain and suffering for what it really is, it leads to deeper understanding
Pain and suffering is our body’s way of communicating a need to you.
It’s a voice pushing you to find help or change.
It is your protector. It is a catalyst.
This goes for physical, emotional, and spiritual pain. And because you are an interconnected being, physical pain can be a result of an emotional problem, emotional pain can be the result of physical problem, and so on.
I’ll give you some examples to sum up a few ways this can look like in every day life.
My friend Tim was depressed. For so long he assumed his depression as a result of not exercising. He believed his emotional suffering was a result of a physical problem.
He would try to make time for exercising, but he could usually only go to the gym for about a week before quitting. Tim finally went to a life coach and after digging deep he realized his depression actually stemmed from his lack of fulfillment in his relationship. He had been in a relationship with his girlfriend for a few years. Things had been okay in the beginning, but as the years went by his girlfriend constantly insulted and criticized Tim no matter how hard he tried. Not long after this realization, Tim broke up with his girlfriend and he was no longer depressed.
Tim’s emotional pain was a result of an emotional problem in his everyday life. Tim’s suffering was the catalyst to make a peaceful change in his life.
Beth suffered from a chronic illness. Most of her life she had lived happily and actively. Now her life was completely different and her abilities were limited. She hated her body for giving up on her while she had so much life to live. Shame and anger eventually became her best friends.
Beth’s physical problem was causing her emotional suffering.
After learning about listening to her pain, Beth was able to see that her physical pain was there to help her understand what her body was going through. Without her mind being clouded by shame and anger, she had the mental space to find herself better treatment. Her daily suffering disappeared when she was able to finally embrace her new life and body as it was. Seeing her pain as her protector provided Beth the emotional bandwidth to seek better treatment.
When your body is trying to communicate through pain or suffering through it’s interconnection, it can be confusing and difficult if you do not yet understand how this works.
Yet when you lean into your pain to figure out how it is serving you in the big picture, you are able to search for results and live more peacefully.
Now does this concept mean that you are all the sudden going to be immune from pain and suffering through out your life?
Of course not.
However, it will provide you with a deeper understanding of self. Which leads to more internal peace and internal peace leads to less suffering.