She was right. I was angry. In fact, I was more than angry I felt rage.
The problem was I was never given the most crucial knowledge one needs about anger. And without this knowledge, the truth is that rage can be dangerous.
So if you are anything like I was, and you have anger, yet have a strong moral compass and you want to heal without causing harm to others, you are in the right place my friend.
Anger is a healthy, God given emotion.
Emotions are your bodies way of communicating with you. Anger communicates with you that something isn’t right. This is a good thing. Knowing this in itself gives the control back to you.
Anger is not happening to you, it’s happening for you.
The energy of your anger is absorbed by the object or entity you choose to release your anger on.
The law of conservation of energy states that energy can neither be created nor destroyed – only converted from one form of energy to another. For example, when you roll a toy car down a ramp and it hits a wall, the energy is transferred from kinetic energy to potential energy. Read more about this law in this article by National Geographic.
What this means for you is that the concern of morality is real. When you unleash this energy onto a person or in a devious way, yes “bad” will occur. However, if you choose to unleash your anger in a healthy way where your energy is being consumed by a soulless entity, you absolve yourself from the moral corruptness of inflicting pain on others.
Anger and love can coexist.
You can love a person while at the same time honoring your experience and suffering. This is a concept I walk many of my High Achievers through. At the end of the day humans make mistakes and their actions can hurt others. It’s okay to take your loved one off their pedestal or box of protection you have created in your head for them.
If you implement the knowledge that you learned above, you know that there is no need to protect them because you won’t choose to unleash your anger on them even if the anger is related to incidents about them. And with the knowledge that anger does erase love, you can erase the pedestal as well. They don’t need to be perfect for you to love them.
The Fastest Way to Overcome Anger is to Honor It
No matter how long you try to push it down, numb it, or unleash it on others pain always has a way of coming out. I’ve helped clients in their 60s learn how to process anger from their elementary years for the first time in their lives.
The first step to honoring is understanding it, listen to it. Why are you angry?
The next step is to let it be. Don’t judge it. Don’t mock it. Don’t compare it. Doing these things will cause you to stop the process of honoring and healing from your experience.
Then lastly, release it through your body.
