One of the things I wish my younger self knew is this:
“People who hurt you don’t look or act cruel All the time.”
Even Hilter had a close relationship with his mom and his dog name’s was Blondie.
No one is ‘all bad’.
Many people who cause harm tend to be charismatic, fun friends, amazing business owners, talented experts, exciting lovers, and close family members.
Toxic and abusive personalities tend to love one thing: control.
However in order for someone to have any sense of control in your life, you have to give them access.
And this access comes can show up in many forms.
One of the most obvious forms of access is through kindness. They are kind and then the next level is trust. Following trust is the manipulation of that trust where you are manipulated into believing you owe them something in return for this kindness.
And THIS is the reason so many family members, so many employees, and so many victims accept repeated mistreatment and abuse.
Because in between the times of hurt, you get something in return.
However, the small amount of good that you get out of these relationships does NOT mean it is a healthy or safe relationship.
Stop expecting it to get ‘all the way bad’ before you leave. Because it won’t.
Bad enough, uncomfortable enough, scary on any level is enough to say good bye.
You deserve more.
