I was in sobbing on the couch when she walked in.
My sweet friend immediately dropped to her knees in front of me on the couch.
“Oh honey…” she said “Are you okay?”
I shook my head yes and no.
And what she said next one of the most loving phrases that you can and should bring to a relationship.
“What do you need in this moment from me?”
I stared at her through tear filled eyes.
It’s difficult to put into words how loved I felt in that moment as I replied asking for a tissue.
If you want to have a deep connection vulnerable moments are part of the journey.
Using phrase like the ones below regularly are what it’s made of:
“Do you just want me to listen or would you like advice right now?”
“What do you need from me in this moment?”
“Are you venting or would you like me to help fix it?”
And when situations come up that up that you are unable to help with, be forthcoming. Because you want what’s best for your friend,
even if you aren’t the answer.
You do this by saying phrases like:
“This subject is out of my realm of knowledge, have you considered seeing (a therapist, counselor, coach, or expert)?”
“I’m unable to give you unbiased advice on this topic.”
“I wish I could help, but I don’t know how.”
Safe and loving relationships are full of people who focus on what the opposite party needs, wants, and asks for.
