The fact that certain behaviors and lifestyles are normalized in your family does not mean they are normal.
I recently had a conversation with a childhood friend. At one point I explained that I no longer have contact with certain family members.
I made this choice because I fiercely protect my children from abusive lifestyles.
“… It took you that long to realize?
” He jested.
” He jested.He was referring to the fact that it took me past my childhood to realize it was abuse.
As a child, I didn’t know.
As a teenager, I knew, but I didn’t know.
After leaving the home, the web of lies and manipulation started to unravel…
But it was not instant.
Wounded people stay wounded because you change the script of reality in your head to survive.
You escape to this false reality during the hardest of times.
You turn off you emotions.
You distract yourself with play, friends, drama, drugs, alcohol, food, schoolwork, self harm… Anything else.
You take on the title of Peacekeeper, Joker, Caretaker, Fighter, or Rebel to gift yourself purpose in the dysfunction.
You excuse the behavior because you understand the reasons for the reactive, explosive, or dangerous behavior.
And you may even fulfill the negative prophecies that were spoken over you most of your childhood. This plays into the false reality that has been painted for your life.
But guess what, it’s a lie.
It’s a path to survive in the moment.
You did what you knew at the time.
And now you know better.
YOU ARE WORTHY OF LIFE.
BLISSFUL, LOVE-FILLED, FULL LIFE.
You’re past does not define you.
It’s time to live a life of truth.
You’re truth.
